Jul 10
27
Learn to Love Yourself First!
Have you noticed that too many people labor under the misconception
that we should sacrifice our own happiness for others? I believe that is
foolish. The one very best favor we can do for those we love is to work
harder on ourselves than we do on anything else.
An unhappy marriage and an unhappy family are the results of unhappy
individuals who live together. If everyone would learn to do what is
necessary to like themselves, they would automatically solve their own problems.
And if you are close to someone who insists on not liking themselves, then extract
yourself from being around that person, they will kill you!
Learning to like or love ourselves is really not a violation of any
community ordinance, material vow, or spiritual law, and yet some
people think there is something terribly wrong with it.
Unless they have rewritten it lately, the Bible still instructs ─
“Love your neighbor as you love yourself.” The very obvious suggestion is
that it is quite normal to love yourself!
How can we possibly love when we do not even understand the
meaning of the word as it applies to us?
How can I possibly give love to someone else when I do not have it for myself?
You cannot give that which you do not have.
I may say the words “I love you.” to someone else, perhaps because it is expected of me or because it seems to be what is said in a given situation. But I cannot truly give the “deep inside emotion.” that goes with those words unless I know of their deepest meaning for myself in my own private self world.
Please pass this on to your kids.
“Everything we say needs to be good and helpful so our words are encouraging to the children who hear them.”
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You’re not weird or coldhearted.
You have ADD.
Your brain focuses on the connections and relationships between things more than on specific bits of information, so you are likely to drift away from a single thought into a complex web of feelings and ideas.
Don’t beat yourself up or feel helpless because of it.
Blogs are a good source of strategies, ideas, and resources, but the caution that they may not help everyone.
Other people’s experiences may be very different from your own, so what worked for them may not work for you.
Many of us have different perspectives.
One person’s success may be another person’s failure.
Blogs may also be inaccurate.
Keep a healthy skepticism when reading them.
Bloggers are always free to say what they want.
Don’t take everything as gospel truth.
“Everything we say needs to be good and helpful so our words are encouraging to the children who hear them.”
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Jul 10
18
Good,happy or hopeful thoughts
Every time you have a good thought, a happy thought or a kind thought
your brain releases chemicals that make your body feel good. Whenever you
have happy thoughts, imagine that your brain releases with glad or
smiling faces, making you feel good. Think about the last time you had a
really happy thought (such as when you got a good grade on a test or
played with your pet). What feelings did you have inside your body? When
most kids are happy their muscles relax, their heart beats slower, their
hands become dry and they breathe slower. Your body also reacts to your
good thoughts.
Think about that.
“Everything we say needs to be good and helpful so our words are encouraging to the children who hear them.”
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Jul 10
15
Mad, unkind or sad thoughts
Did you know every time you have a mad thought, an unkind thought, a sad
thought, or cranky thought, your brain releases negative chemicals that
make your body feel bad. Whenever you’re upset, imagine that your brain
releases bubbles with sad or angry faces, looking to cause problems.
Think about the last time you were mad. What feelings did you have inside
your body? When most kids are mad, their muscles get tense, their heart
beats faster, their hands start to sweat and they may even begin to feel
a little dizzy. Your body reacts to every negative thought you have.
Think about that.
“Everything we say needs to be good and helpful so our words are encouraging to the children who hear them.”
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Jul 10
14
Thoughts and plans
God has thoughts and plans for your good, to give you hope for your future.
Jer. 29:11
For I know the plans I have for you,” says the Lord. “They are plans
for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope. (Jer. 29:11)
If you hold on to your hope and fight for it when the enemy tries to take
it away, you will see amazing things take place in your life.
Think about it.
Always be joyful,
Catherine Trammell
“Everything we say needs to be good and helpful so our words are encouraging to the children who hear them.”
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Jul 10
10
My Recipe for Effective Parenting
My Recipe for Effective Parenting
By Ask Yiayia-Becky Kapsalis
A Barrel of Trust
A Bushel of Patience
A Gallon of Faith
A Liter of Understanding
A Quart of Respect
A Pint of Humor
Combine all ingredients. Blend with consistency. Stir well to form a ball of love.
Stiff out jealousies, guilt, resentments, anger and frustrations.
Pour in Encouragement; Soften with decency;
Shape into equal parts of caring, humility, inspiration and communication;
Place in lightly coated heartfelt holder;
Sprinkle with fondness and affection.
Bake in high degree of common sense until bubbles of positive parenting form,
Serves a loving family. Preserved for life.
Whether we can cook or not, the above recipe will prepare us to empower our children to
look for the best within themselves; to experience their self-worth; to envision their
future; to never to say ‘if only’. Even if we aren’t equipped with all the ingredients
all the time, they have an eternal shelf life we can tap into as needed. It’s up to us to keep our pantry well stocked.
Our children (the benefactors of our recipe), in turn, have a right to; be loved
unconditionally; cry when they are hurt; be considered disciples; be given choices; be
treated with firmness and consistency; be a part of family decisions; not be evaluated or
judged; be respected; be taught how to behave; be allowed to make mistakes; be treated
fairly; accept responsibility; be spoken to-not talked at; separate wants from needs; be
held accountable; understand limits imposed by family values and, finally, speak to
others as they would speak to themselves.
My first hand experience in dealing with problematic children has re-enforced the
importance of effective communication. Even the worst case scenario proves that communicating and disciplining the behavior rather than the child results in the child accepting responsibility for their behavior while trusting us to help them recognize their own emotional intelligence.
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Jul 10
7
Find the Buried Treasures
To find joy in life, a person needs to find something they like to do and is good at.
Helping someone create a better life begins, in identifying what is or what might potentially be positive and worth building on in the person’s life.
Accordingly, the treatment of ADD should begin with an effort to find what’s good in a
given person.
Most treatment focuses on what’s wrong in the world of ADD. To be sure, a lot can go wrong, and that must be attended to. But, if the treatment is to be as transformative as possible, it must look for the treasures. It must dig and uncover the hidden strengths, the potential talents, in every child who has ADD, and in every adult. It must discover where the brain lights up.
Everything we say needs to be good and helpful so our words are encouraging to the children who hear them.”
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Did you know every time you a thought your brain releases chemicals.
That’s how our brain works.
You have a thought; your brain releases chemicals, an electric
transmission goes across your brain and you become aware of what you’re
thinking.
Thoughts are real and they have a real impact on how you feel and how you
behave.
“Everything we say needs to be good and helpful so our words are encouraging to the children who hear them.”
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Sometimes a person is challenged in their learning potential; they have problems listening, writing documents, reading, processing math formulas, memorizing, and more.
Learning Disorders can be quite physical, due to poor signaling between the brain’s neurons, learning processes and Central Nervous System, and are not the person’s fault.
Dyslexia and slow motor skills are examples of Learning Disorders (LD), and they also deeply affect how a person feels about themselves.
There is an undeniable link between the words parents speak and the attitudes and outcomes that children create in their lives.
Your choice of words and your communication style are critical to self-esteem, emotional health, and personal empowerment of your children.
By intentionally selecting words and language patterns that build autonomy and responsibility, you can empower your children and enhance their effectiveness as capable, caring human beings.
• Learn how to speak in words that nurture, uplift, and inspire.
• Learn how to hold children accountable for their actions without attacking their spirit or
personality.
• Learn how to set appropriate limits and make controlled choice work for you.
• Learn to praise in ways that help children develop a strong internal sense of self-esteem.
• Learn language that promotes independence while reducing learned helplessness.
• Add to your tool box of parenting skills so that you and your child can become more
response-able.
“Everything we say needs to be good and helpful so our words are encouraging to the children who hear them.”
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1. Organization & Completion
Clear goals & steps – follow through on projects large and small.
2. Career Development
A meaningful work life that plays to one’s talents & strengths.
3. Tracking Time
Planning & executing the sequence of a day, week, month.
4. Household Harmony
Order & success with the projects & stuff around the house.
5. Newly Recognized ADD/ADHD
Issues & answers for adults new to this “ADD/ADHD thing.
6. Life Balance
Energy & time for the things you really care about in life.
“Everything we say needs to be good and helpful so our words are encouraging to the children who hear them.”
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